Engagement parties are the first of many pre-wedding celebrations. In addition to the engagement party, there’s the bridal shower, bachelorette party and even rehearsal dinner. Before you begin planning your engagement party, consider if hosting the first official wedding activity is right for you:
The length between my engagement and wedding day is:
A.) Long. There will be 12-24 months or more between my engagement and wedding day
B.) Short. There will be less than 12 months between my engagement and wedding day
If you answered A, Long:
An engagement party is a great idea for you! Having a long engagement length means that you have plenty of time between your engagement and big day.
You Have The Time!
Having a long engagement means that you have the necessary time to plan an engagement party. Your engagement party should take place within 3 months of the engagement. Since engagement parties require planning, composing a guest list and even financial resources, long engagements are ideal as planning the engagement party will not interfere with planning your actual wedding. Once your engagement party planning ends, you can take on planning for your wedding.
You will have an opportunity to test out your planning skills. If taking on the tasks required to plan your engagement party was incredibly stressful, consider hiring a wedding planner or reaching out to family and friends for assistance.
If you answered B, Short:
Consider cutting the engagement party when you have a short engagement length. Short engagement lengths means that you are closer to the big day than a bride with a long engagement length. Where long engagement lengths have time to save and plan for the big day, short engagements have less time to set aside resources and cross wedding planning tasks off the list. Unless you have flexible financial resources, consider skipping the engagement party to ensure that all resources are available for wedding related expenses.
To Use Financial Resources For Vendor Deposits:
After your engagement, you will need to start making vendor deposits to secure your top vendor choices. On average, this may require $100 up to $500 or more to secure each vendor, meaning hundreds of dollars required at the start of your planning journey to secure vendors. Hosting an engagement party will cut into the resources required for vendor deposits.
You Will Need Time To Plan The Wedding Day:
An engagement party will also cut into the time required to plan your day. As engagement parties should be hosted within at least 3 months of the big day, you will find yourself either planning both the wedding and engagement party or postponing planning the wedding to focus on the engagement party. With less time to plan, consider giving your attention to your wedding planning tasks.
Challenging For Out Of Town Guests:
Out of town guests may also find it challenging to attend both the wedding and engagement party within a short time-frame. For example, if your engagement party is hosted in March and your wedding will be in September, out of town guests will have to cover lodging and travel twice within a short time-frame. Consider skipping the engagement party to ease the financial burden for guests as well.